When your natural way is not the best way.

When your natural way is not the best way.

Hey there rebel!

You know how I always say we should go with our natural ways?

Well... turns out there IS an exception and I have just found it. And since I promised myself to always share my lessons with you in my emails, today I'll tell you how I had to go against my Natural Way this summer! *gasp*

I know, I know... it's like REBELASHPEMY.

Let me explain...

How to be more productive and work fewer hours.

How to be more productive and work fewer hours.

hey, this is no clickbait... 

I just wanted to share my progress from procrastination and distraction to productive and getting sh*t done. Seeing as we all struggle to get things done and not lose our minds in the process (did you know that hustling is bad for you), I thought this could be helpful for all of us to reflect on.

Don't get me wrong, I still struggle, always will, but progress matters. Even if it's just small progress, that's much more than many people get.

So let me share my 3-step Plan to Progress & Productivity with ya. :)

The Ennegram test and the boxes we put ourselves into.

The Ennegram test and the boxes we put ourselves into.

OK...

Most of the time I LOVE personality tests.

I am big on self-awareness and knowing more about myself makes me feel empowered to grow and make better choices. We don't often change, but knowing what we could do better is a powerful tool for anyone driven to achieve and just live the good life or whatever your ultimate goal in life is.

And most of the time I LOVE what I read and nod a lot.

Yep, that's me... yep, yep, totally me... OMG how do they know... and so on.

But I finally came about a personality test that literally made me cringe. Which doesn't mean I didn't like it or that I think it's wrong. But it literally took the worst aspects of my personality, the things I'd like to change but cannot, and put them together in a report that's basically my life in a nutshell.

Looking for a coach? Make sure they understand your creative rebel needs.

Looking for a coach? Make sure they understand your creative rebel needs.

you've hit a bump in the road.

You feel stuck, uninspired, and frustrated with everything that used to be fun.

Usually, at this point I recommend to people to get some perspective by introducing another person to the equation. It could be a loved one (though they are subjective) or an accountability buddy (though they can only give you their opinion, not guide you), or a coach (who do not have the answers, but know how to gently guide you to your truth, or at least the good ones do). 

If you think you're ready to hire a coach, I just want you to make sure that you're hiring someone who understands your needs as a creative rebel.

Otherwise you'll have wasted your money and ended up even more frustrated.

I hope you still write fiction.

I hope you still write fiction.

There's a song I always go back to.

It's a country song, called I Hope You Dance, performed by Lee Ann Womack.

Here are some of the words that touched me:

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin' might mean takin' chances, but they're worth takin'
Lovin' might be a mistake, but it's worth makin'
Don't let some Hellbent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to sellin' out, reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance

When you focus on the FUN parts and ignore the BORING parts of your business.

When you focus on the FUN parts and ignore the BORING parts of your business.

Don't get too excited... I am still technically on a break.

But I wanted to give you a little update because I think this is important for all of us creative rebels. Basically, I'm going to spend this summer fixing a terrible mistake I had made. And I bet I'm not the only one in this...

You know how there are fun parts in business?

Creating content, learning new things, outlining projects, etc.

And you know how there are boring parts in business?

Admin work, funnels, answering emails, repurposing content, etc.

Why I do what I do and how I got here.

Why I do what I do and how I got here.

For most of my life, I followed the rules.

I was a good student.

I never missed an appointment.

When I needed to learn something, I started from the books.

Basically, I was a good little girl who had faith in society, traditional education, and the people enforcing both. I had faith they would bring me somewhere. However, they brought me to a miserable place. A place where everything was predictable and boring. Where people were like robots with certifications who never stood out and who always did as they were told.

It's why for most of my life I have done creative projects on the side.

A part of me just always KNEW I would never be happy if all I was was a good little girl who followed the rules. That is why I was a rebel in my free time. I started collaborations, projects, and blogs that reflected who I really was.

Don't confine yourself into a niche. Find your Core Message first.

Don't confine yourself into a niche. Find your Core Message first.

SO YOU’RE STARTING SOMETHING - A BLOG, A BRAND, A BUSINESS - AND THE EXPERTS ARE ALL TELLING YOU THE SAME THING: TO NICHE DOWN.

Which you don’t really want to do because:

  1. You’re a rebel and you don’t want to put yourself in a box;
  2. Even if you did want to do that, you wouldn’t even know where to begin!

Listen, I get where you’re coming from because I’ve been there. More than once. And the truth is that I have listened to the experts more times than I would have liked. But there comes a time when you stop listening to the experts and start listening to your own gut or internal compass or whatever you call it.

There comes a time when you need to do what works best for you.

Now let’s see why this is really bad advice...

When your self-employed brain inevitably enters panic mode.

When your self-employed brain inevitably enters panic mode.

Listen guys...

We don't talk about this enough.

And I just decided to talk about it because a) I want to be real with you and b) I just had a dream about hand-delivering promotional pumpkins and writing rhymes for food labels. Which is basically my brain entering panic mode.

When you're self-employed you're gonna have good months and bad months.

Finacially, I mean.

Until you hit that sweet "sustainability" spot, that's just the way it's gonna be, especially if you're doing your own thing and walking on untested territory.

And you're probably like me...

Stop forcing your business into high heels.

Stop forcing your business into high heels.

This winter I had a very vivid dream...

I was going somewhere, and there was snow and people around me. It was life as usual, except one very significant difference - I wore high heels.

If there is one thing I have never done and will never do, it's wearing high heels. First of all, they're uncomfortable and make my legs go all wobbly, so it's embarrassing as hell. Secondly, I'm tall enough to look like a freak on high heels. Finally, I don't care about how my ass appears in them or how they're the pinnacle of female sexiness or whatever. I just don't care.

So in my dream, I'm wobbling on high heels, and I realize something horrific - I can't take them off! I have to keep going, even though my feet hurt and I look ridiculous. It's life as usual, nobody's saying anything, but I feel awful.

I did a Tarot reading for my ideal client, aka you.

I did a Tarot reading for my ideal client, aka you.

Dude...

I have never in my life done something so radical.

Which reminds me. Apparently saying you do Tarot readings is a bit tricky, and you're supposed to say that you're doing it for entertainment purposes.

*So this Tarot reading was done for entertainment purposes.*

I have done Tarot readings for friends, family, and strangers at hen parties (so much so that every girl at the hen party lined up to wait her turn), and they have all experienced the same thing - insight. I'll be honest and tell you why that happens - because the cards reflect what you think back to you.

Rebelify your website - because it's YOURS.

Rebelify your website - because it's YOURS.

It's rebelifying time!

Again.

Because once you start you cannot stop. I should know.

This time we're looking at your website and how you can make it more YOU. How you can finally let go of the expectations of others and the expert advice. How you can stick your flag on the Moon.

Oh yeah, almost forgot...

Some people ask why they should have a website, and even though I am not one to set rules for others - or use the word should - I will admit that I don't understand the question. 

It's like going to the Moon and not sticking your flag on it.

In Merlin's name, why.

A huge thank you to 5 of my favorite rebels for helping me rebrand.

A huge thank you to 5 of my favorite rebels for helping me rebrand.

OK, they didn't help me personally but...

If I hadn't had access to their wisdom, my brand could be different now.

And I am NOT saying that I ignored myself (again) so that I can listen to a bunch of experts tell me what I'm supposed to do. You know me better than that.

I'm saying that their rebelliousness gave me great rebellious ideas.

That's just how rebellion works. It's contagious.

So let's look at the 5 rebels who helped me relaunch my site and rebrand it, and bring to you this new site that is the most authentic I have ever been.

It's not when things are hard, but when things are easy that you know you're on YOUR path.

It's not when things are hard, but when things are easy that you know you're on YOUR path.

i'm a capricorn.

Which means I appreciate when things come hard.

It makes me feel like I'm climbing, which is natural for the goat.

However, I am not a goat, I am a person, who has spent her entire life having it hard - from being poor growing up to going homeless one day in England and being on assistance to having to go back to live with the parents - life is f*cking hard, ya know? It's not a tea party. Especially for the generation who are told we can do anything in this impossible economy (although to be fair, you can always make your own economy). And for the age when everyone's an online expert, while everyone else feels like a fraud. I mean, c'mon.

What I found at the end of the rabbit hole.

What I found at the end of the rabbit hole.

So I've been recording a video every day for a week now, and I love it! It gives me a chance to figure out what I like and what I don't, what is finished and what is incomplete, and finally, what should be scripted and what doesn't need to be.

I love a learning experience as much as anyone!

Today's video is going up on the blog because I wanted you to know what I'm doing and give you a bunch of rebel resources in case you've been uninspired these days.

I forgot my dream, a vlog and a chance to reconnect.

I forgot my dream, a vlog and a chance to reconnect.

It's funny...

I finally decided to vlog and the first thing I did was to brainstorm ideas I could talk about. That is, topics I could do and things I could help people with, and basically, an entire "vlogging strategy." But when my first official vlog took me an entire day to edit and ended up being too quiet to hear anything (wrong mic), I realized something pretty big.

I was tired of producing content.

I was tired of doing things as I should do them.

I was tired of strategy and doing things in a "smart" way.

There are a LOT of courses out there, but not many are for rebels.

There are a LOT of courses out there, but not many are for rebels.

You know how there was a time you bought all the online courses?

Or maybe you still do, you poor thing...

Some you take, and they sort of help, while others you forget and put away.

And while most are really helpful, I don't question that, I wonder how many consider the fact that you're a unique human being. Most of them provide some sort of blueprint that helped someone make 6-figures, and you try the same tactics, but guess what! 

They don't feel good. Or they don't work the same. Whyyyyy?

Why creative rebels need to stick together.

Why creative rebels need to stick together.

Apart from the obvious 'birds of a feather' thing...

You know how you grew up with people calling you "weird" and making faces behind your back? How you were always the odd (wo)man out? How trying to fit in somehow made things worse and when you finally did, you still felt out of place?

Congratulations, you're a rebel.

And I get your frustration, I really do. I lived that life, so I get how hard it is to be different. Except you're not different, you are unique - and by the way everyone is - and the difference you perceive is in the way you think, compared to other people.

What is a creative rebel?

What is a creative rebel?

I get this question a lot. 

The other thing I get a lot is people saying they're NOT rebels.

Thing is, when I look at the people who say they're not rebels, they're the biggest rebels out there, and they're just insecure because "rebel" sounds like some sort of activist or revolutionary who changes the world and breaks rules on a daily basis.

Nope. A creative rebel is nothing like that.

Forget the numbers and focus on the work.

Forget the numbers and focus on the work.

Yesterday was a peculiar day.

First I got a clear rebel call to action on twitter from Jason Zook.

He said,

Ask yourself this question: "Is anyone ACTUALLY using the social share buttons on my website?" If the answer is no, remove the damn thing! Mediocre content doesn't get shared just because you slapped social sharing icons on your site. Great content gets shared no matter what.

Which made total sense and had me reexamine why I was using Sumo.