#100DaysofFeelings: On Day 5, I feel understood.

Today, I feel understood.

I'm reading Danielle LaPorte's The Desire Map and it's like she can see into my soul. 

I'm sure a lot of readers can say the same thing.

It's just that I've been tired of business books and research studies (even though I'm a psychologist myself), and it's refreshing to see someone talk about the more... woo woo side of things. And that's another thing...

Who the hell decides what's woo woo and what's not?!

For me, Quantum Physics is not woo woo and yet people think The Secret falls under that category. Everybody throws the word "manifesting" around like there's no tomorrow, but nobody knows what it means or how to apply it. (For the record, it was AMAZING when I did it successfully back in 2007.) It's not about wishing but actually focusing on the things you want in your life in a positive way and releasing the outcome, which is the part people don't really get.

Well, Danielle gets it. And she does woo woo in a badass way.

But that's not why I feel understood today...

I feel understood because the exercises helped me come up with my 5 "core desired feelings."

I honestly did not expect those:

  • abundant
  • connected
  • in love
  • whole
  • free

(I expected something corny like confident, achieving, and grateful.)

To be faced with the words your soul desires but your mind can't grasp... to see the words you resonate with so much but your mind has been convincing you they're already in your grasp... to be faced with the reality of your denial...


Isn't it so unfortunate that our minds would do just about anything to avoid conflict and resolve dissonance? So much so, we would develop coping techniques like denial and stuffing your days with work and Netflix. Because your mind does not want you to stop and think about the things it deems uncomfortable. It would rather you kept going without knowing there's something wrong. And so you do... until something wakes you up.

And so, I sit here today, feeling understood and humble. I also feel that there's a lot I have to work on to get those feelings back into my life.

There's always answers in the books you feel drawn to. (There was literally an answer to my nagging question in The Creative Tarot, which was a book I didn't touch for months after I bought it.) So stop buying the books you think you're "supposed to" read or the books other people recommended.

If there's no draw, there are no answers for you inside.

It might sound like I'm romanticizing books a bit or even giving them mystical powers they don't possess, but the truth is that it's not the book that possesses the answer to your question. It's you, the reader. It's the same with the Tarot cards. They can't really tell me anything I don't already know on some level. Most people don't even know I do Tarot readings, but the truth is that I do them well. And I'm not trying to brag, I'm just saying...

No matter the medium, you're the one who has the answers. The rest is just finding the tool that helps you get them.

What's your favorite discovery tool? Tell me on twitter.



P.S. And if you have a burning question, apply for a Tarot session. 

Violeta Nedkova

Violeta Nedkova is a multipassionate marketer who loves helping people. She talks and writes about marketing with purpose and personality because it's so much better than traditional marketing.